“But the next time I visited them, Pat was showing off her new emerald-cut sapphire ring.That thing cost more than a down payment on a house!At first, her two 20-something sons were fine with her new husband — until they settled into relationships of their own.
“She may feel her dad prefers the ‘other’ woman to both her mom and herself,” Lieberman says. Itamar Salamon, an associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York City.
“Children, even when they’re grown, get attached to being important in their single parents’ lives, and they resent it when someone gets between them and the parent.” (MORE: How to Tell Your Adult Children You’re Divorcing) On top of the emotional reaction, Salamon says, adult children may also have anxiety about their parent’s ability to help out financially, as well as their own anticipated inheritance, which creates resistance to the prospect of their parents partnering up.
Maybe they’ll get less than they might have if I hadn’t remarried, but there’s plenty to go around.” (MORE: The 6 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Your Adult Child) When Children Have a Significant Other According to Lieberman, tensions can be exacerbated when your child has his own partner.
Anne Keller had such an experience when she remarried at age 56, five years after being widowed.
“Many a bad girl or bad boy prowls for rich divorced baby boomers to marry and fleece,” she says.